Signs that you are growing and transforming
Three counter-intuitive ideas to spot the growth mindset in yourself.
1# Fear is an integral part of the deal
As you grow and transform, letting go will start to support you in releasing trapped fear and therefore a regeneration of empowering energies in your system can unfold. However, that does not mean, that there is a life, here and now, without fear. Exiling fear in the race for psychological and emotional safety and only focusing on the positive will limit personal growth and transformation.
Fear is a helper. It makes us alert. And it is upon us to learn to deal with fear and become able to consciously choose our response. In doing so we work on increasing our capacity to hold fear and the freedom to choose in the same moment.
Remember, the goal of self-healing is to increase our capacity for making conscious choices in the face of all sorts of emotions.
#2 Alone time feels nourishing
We avoid alone time more often than we think. It’s an unconscious choice. Often we seek pleasure in doing things together or feel driven to please others. But, that’s an ego drive. Don’t get fooled by avoiding pain and seeking pleasure.
Begin acknowledging your ego drives. Starting to shift priorities towards nourishing me-time is a key realization in the self-healing process. The healing life view here is to reframe alone time and find freedom and nourishment in solitude.
#3 Courage to erase weird loops of thoughts
Personal inner transformation is a journey of courage to let go. And one essential question is: what is currently present in my system that actually produces the energy of apathy, resistance, or finding it hard to change something? What if I was able to let go of this or cancel, undo, erase, or delete this?
Most likely your system, over time, has built strong lines of defense. These show up as weird loops of recurring thoughts, beliefs, triggered emotions, unfulfilled dreams, desires, hardwired reactions, and ego-coping strategies. Dare to look at these loops! Investigate! Write down your loops on a piece of paper, cross them out, or cut through the paper. Dare to erase the whole loop as it appears to you. And if that sounds too brutal, use a soft pencil and a rubber to edit the story you keep telling yourself!
I hope this has been fun and encouraging for you! As always: I am not telling you it’s easy, but it’s worth it!